Juju, I really can relate to what you say about “neediness”. I love to be with the one I am with. Spend time with them, do nice features, think of them, etc. I would probably spend a good portion of my time with someone who wants to do the same. Does that make me “needy”? No. My ex was a guy like I said who did always want to spend time with em. X NG would want to if we lived close. FF spent all his free time with me. Everyone made me feel like this was “wrong”. But I enjoyed it. I love to be with the one I love.
Then M came along. He was like that in the beginning. Expect given kids, etc, we were excited to spend our time together. But when it came to a point where I was made to feel crappy because I wanted to spend time with him, that’s where I knew something was wrong. Yeah, we all need our individual time, our time with our friends, kids etc. but wanting to be with the one you love is not wrong, needy, pathetic , or a red flag. Finding someone who is compatible with that is great. I know you can be happy on your own and you don’t rely on someone else for your happiness. But you do just love to spend time with the one you are with and that’s natural.
I could only hope for a love like yours. Someone who feels like the won the jackpot when they found me. And treasures me everyday. And vice versus. I think that’s actually very healthy.
Embrace it, enjoy it. Your R will evolve. It may not always be so hot and heavy, but you can still have that love where you just love to be together.
