Moving on

[DonH]

I'm so glad you are happy and things continue to go well for you JuJu. It seems like the two of you are a good fit in many ways - although by your own admission they may not be the healthiest? Still, it seems good - at least so far. But when I see this:

I can’t find one thing that I do not like about him. - I have never felt like that about someone.

That throws up red flags for me. I mean how can this be - with anyone? It's just not possible for any two humans not to find ANYTHING, not one single thing that they do not like about someone else. Even the best of Rs there are always some things that drive the other person nuts. If that's not the case it tells me you are still super in the honeymoon or infatuation phase. Or you have the most expensive pair of rose colored glasses known to man.

If and when you get to the point that you finally do see his flaws - and I know he has to have them. You finally see or admit that the way he smacks his lips when he eats his food or talks three times louder on the telephone than he needs to or calls everyone "dude" or whatever it is (I of course just made these up) - but when you start to identify these things in him and he starts to see the things that you do that drive others crazy - and yet you still feel the same way, well then you may have something here.

The mistake so many people make is think that how you feel now is how you are going to feel in 3 years - or maybe just in 1 year. It just never is. The cute way he calls everyone dude becomes extremely enjoying and if he says is just one more time you may clock him upside the head. You by your own admission have a history of not seeing what other people see - yet pushing forward anyhow. At this point others have not seen the flags - or at least have not voiced them to you. And there well may not be any. The only way to tell is to keep doing what you are doing, keep your eyes open and see how both of you feel in a year or two. I hope you feel the same but sadly the honeymoon phase does not last for ever. It's not about finding someone that you have nothing you dislike about, but rather finding someone that even the things you dislike about him don't come close to outweighing the things you do. It's also not just you - he has to feel the same as well and as you say, at least sometimes those who fall in hard and fast fall out just as fast.

You seem to have half of it covered - you both seem to have that elusive chemistry. You just fit. That's probably the case. It just doesn't mean you are compatible for the long term. You very well may be - I don't want to suggest otherwise. I'm just suggesting if you can't find one thing you don't like, it's too early to tell yet.