Read all these threads by Ketch:
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=userposts&view=started&id=40393

I am sure there is advise in there that will help you.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712