Thought I stop by for a visit and am so glad I did. BTW--what does "nitaf" mean..it's a nagging question that I have everytime I see your name.
Quote: remember reading a great technique on these boards once about mirroring back all of the critisisms that get thrown at you. If he says you are ALWAYS this or that, go into a monotone and say, "Yes, I am always this or that, you are so right, I am an imperfect human being". I did that for awhile and found that my H actually started to defend me! DBing is all about doing what works so try things and monitor.
I have never tried this, but am going to give it a try! The way my H talks to me some days you'd think I was the most awful/stupidest person around. Thank goodness I know better, but it's just plain irritating and am tired of defending it, just tired of the attacks.
