We both share what others describe as “neediness” . Like he actually told me I never have to worry about being clingy with him cause he is even more so and likes being around me all the time.
Doesn't sound to me so much like neediness as just you both speak the same love languages. If Quality Time is both of yours love languages, you'd both be really interested in spending time together. If Physical Touch is your love languages, you'd both really want to hold hands, rub shoulders, snuggle together on the couch etc.
Those things only appear needy when you are paired with someone who doesn't share those love languages. I'm a physical touch person and I'm pretty sure my ex husband was tired of me touching him so often. He on the other hand was a Quality Time dude and my multitasking and being off in my introvert head wasn't meeting his needs.
I've had some boyfriends since for whom physical touch was their love languages too and it's very nice not to feel you are bothering someone when you stroke their head or hold their hand.
