Thanks ginger. I’m being cautious in some ways but very different in others. Like, I feel like i just know. He says the same. Everything feels right. We have met each others kids a while back. . He hangs out with me and my family every chance he can. We want the same things. We talked about everything early on. We just clique. We both share what others describe as “neediness” . Like he actually told me I never have to worry about being clingy with him cause he is even more so and likes being around me all the time. Obviously we both work and have kids so it’s can never get excessive. (I know people say it’s unhealthy but my parents are old school and like that and his seem to be like that too). We both have very similar and traditional views of family. I can’t find one thing that I do not like about him. - I have never felt like that about someone.
Last guy, I settled for - based on the fact that I knew he was stable. I excused and tried to looks past things I didn’t like because of qualities I felt safe with. Same thing with my ex husband. -with both guys people told me “you guys have nothing in common”. And they were right. With bf now My best friend for the first time ever in our lives told me “you will never find someone better for you” and my mom told me “you guys just fit together so well”. With ex husband my best friend asked me “are you sure you want to marry him or are you just doing it cause there’s no real reason not to” and my mom told me “you are day and he is night”
My only fear is the “feels too good to be true. When is it all gonna fall apart”. Based not on him, but my experiences reading sites like this. And based on what I have experienced in the past.
I tend to be cynical and slow moving and rational. And for the first time, I’m not following the guidelines. I’m kind of just going with what works. And I’m really hoping it works out. But yeah - I know I will survivor of it doesn’t.
