Yeah I agree with ovrr- very tricky. But potentially an opportunity to display some changes you have made.
I would say help her - but do it as a friendly neighbor would - calm, polite, agreeable. Definitely don't say anything about the birthday or counseling, you want to avoid any touchy topics like you would the plague. You want her to see you in the best light possible.
If you need to meet, keep away from all talk of R. Let her do most of the talking. Like 80-85%.
I will say it is interesting that she asked for your help. I wouldn't read into it at all, but I think it's ok for you to privately celebrate this small moment of positivity before you continue on with your GAL and personal development.
Stay strong, Steve!
Thanks both - we're going to meet up early next week to solve the problem. Mostly just said that I'd be happy to help, and after she expressed some concern and frustration with the problems, that I was sure we'd be able to figure it out together. Looking forward to it.
Interestingly, when I replied back (this was all via text, our preferred communication medium), we also had a nice back-and-forth about the work trip she's currently on, with her sharing that she was exhausted from the travel, had a really frightening turbulence incident, and was thankful of the things I've been doing to keep things organized. Good opportunity for me to just listen and break some ice a little.
