Yeah I agree with ovrr- very tricky. But potentially an opportunity to display some changes you have made.
I would say help her - but do it as a friendly neighbor would - calm, polite, agreeable. Definitely don't say anything about the birthday or counseling, you want to avoid any touchy topics like you would the plague. You want her to see you in the best light possible.
If you need to meet, keep away from all talk of R. Let her do most of the talking. Like 80-85%.
I will say it is interesting that she asked for your help. I wouldn't read into it at all, but I think it's ok for you to privately celebrate this small moment of positivity before you continue on with your GAL and personal development.
