Thanks everyone for so much feedback! I know the story was confusing. It was confusing to me as it was happening =)
I agree I should focus on being more concise.
This morning W pinged me over text. She said she didn't read our entire text thread the other night hence her confusion. And then she was upset I didn't allow her and her friend to spend more time with the kids. I pointed out that I did offer that over text. It was defensive of me to respond, but I felt like setting the record straight.
This morning W pinged me over text about 3 items.
1. She wants to reach out to child psychologists because S7 is having some behavioral issues. 2. She asked about the plan for starting mediation. 3. She complained about the issue yesterday, and said in the future she hoped we would each make accommodations for each other when friend care in town.
We have a scheduled talk tomorrow night. So I replied, "Can we talk about all 3 items tomorrow night? Text and e-mail are not working well for us."
I could have left out the 2nd sentence...
For item #1... she went ahead and already started reaching out. Last week in MC she implied S7's issues were my fault. I do think he needs some help, but I have a somewhat irrational fear about W's motives. Perhaps she wants to hand-select the psychologist. It's just one of those fears I have to face that she's going to drag us into court eventually.
For item #2... I will wait until we talk tomorrow. I don't have to, I am choosing to because I think it's the right thing for me to do.
For item #3, I'll hear out what she has to say, but these accommodations she refers to are going to be very one-sided. It seems clear we are going to need a very detailed settlement agreement to make things crystal clear.
