Wow, Scout, those were some giant waving red flags of erratic behavior, financial irresponsibility, and dishonest behavior that you blew right past. One of the important things to learn right now is why you ignored those red flags and how not to ignore them in future relationships.
In a relationship with a narcissist, you are only valuable to them so long as you are making them look good and going along with what they want to do. I still suspect a possible element of mania as well, as this is such an unrealistic scenario (he's a store manager but he's going to save up - while spending erratically - and retire in his 40's with enough money to afford a $150k car??? people who get super frugal can definitely retire in their 40's but not to a life of profligate spending unless they are Silicon Valley millionaires.
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Mind you my XW would tell me about my ‘negativity’ but sometimes this was me critically analysing the situation or being realistic.
Interesting - my narcissistic and slightly manic ex also would accuse me of being negative when I was just analytically evaluating a situation - I guess it interfered with his fantasies.
