Scout's QLC journey

[DS9]

Hey scout just checking in on you. How’s the legal stuff progressing? How’s S coping? Make sure you enjoy every minute when he’s so young because they grow up so quickly

I trust changeovers have been ok?

I’m going to respectfully disagree with some of the vets about driving the spouse away - in some instances. In my sitch, things had reached a stage where I was drained emotionally and spiritually. I was negative quite often and I’m sure I gave off a bad vibe sometimes. Work was never ending and there was a self critical self doubting monkey on my shoulder whispering in my ear. I now know through ic this is a subconscious coping/defence mechanism learned in childhood. The thing is when your subconscious behaviours kick in you can’t see your body language, your tone, and all those other little things your spouse or other people pick up on. I’ve realised this now. My cup was empty and I didn’t know how to refill it. These are things I’ve worked on as a 180

Mind you my XW would tell me about my ‘negativity’ but sometimes this was me critically analysing the situation or being realistic. It didn’t help that she was big on telling me what to do but needed improvement in actually helping achieve what she wanted me to do or be. Her bossiness was something we’d make light of but my negativity was treated like an illness.

Hope that gives food for thought. Cheers DS