Thanks to both of you! I appreciate any and all thoughts.
U-
I get what you mean for sure. At this point, I’m grappling less with concerns about making it too easy on H, and more with what is the best way to handle these things to help tip the scales toward recon. Thankfully, I’ve come to a point where I’m at peace with my choices in terms of “letting him off easy” or “playing family”. If he still pushes the D through, those will not be the things I struggle with. My concern lies more in knowing that he is at such a crucial point in his decision making process. He told me all of that directly. Whereas before that convo I wasn’t clear on where he stood, so all my decisions around this stuff felt like shots in the dark, now it feels like there’s a target in sight, and there may be more of a chance that my choices point him towards or away from it, even slightly. Of course, I could be completely wrong, but I’m working with what I’ve got.
AS— This is good advice, and I plan to do just that. My family still loves him and are happy to have him. I’m going to make sure to keep the line; I am happy to have him there, but we won’t be pretending to be a couple. My daughter will be really happy to have us all together, and that makes me really happy.
