Your wife is unhappy. Nothing you can do about that. She might go deeper into the valley trying to find her external "happiness". Nothing you can do about that.
This is where your word choice matters:
"I want us both to be happy" "You deserve to be happy" "If divorce is the only way for you to be happy, I will not stand in your way"
As far as actions, they should be in line with your core values. Your core values define WHO YOU ARE and what you stand for.
Clint Eastwood characters typically stand up for what is right. Not what is easier. Not what is safer. Why are woman attracted to him?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
