I'm seeing a therapist weekly, we spend about half our time discussing me, how I got to the point of having an affair, working on my coping skills(or lack of them), and other things. The rest of the time she works on me about how to have good interactions with my wife. Which a lot of her advice goes against DB rules, so I am always torn on how to interact with her.

I did have a coach from MWD for a while, just seemed like she is in so deep with the OM it seemed pointless after my first set of sessions ran out. So maybe I will go back to hiring a coach. I pretty much know this is going to be a long, long road, yes possibly years. I'm just trying to figure out how to interact with her so that she sees that over time I do love her, undoubtedly. Just in that time I want to become better at all the weakness I have.

Thank you for your opinions and insights.

Me 34 Her 34
T:16 years
M:11
4 Daughters: 10,7,6,3
Her EA May 2019
Separated July 30th 2019
Her PA Started August 1st, 2019
Filed October 3rd, 2019