Pushing for D when it benefits you and and protects you is definitely the right thing to do and understandable in your case.
I actually see your path to reconciliation to be easier then most. There is no OP which IMO helps with trust issues.
I think the number one problem in all this is timing. It takes the WW too long to come out of the crisis. I have seen AS write that his W is just coming out of it and he is seven years in.
