I need advice, in light of the latest developments in my situation.
Yesterday H asked what my thanksgiving plans are. I told him I’m working on making plans with my family but that I had told them I need to talk to him to see what his plans were, in order to accommodate sharing the day re: D4. He said he doesn’t have any plans, and went in to telling me about how things are with his family at the moment (not good, and they never make coherent holiday plans anyway, so it’s not at all surprising) It seemed clear he’d like to be invited to mine.
I do want him there, obviously. And given where he seems to be emotionally, a big part of me thinks that it would be a positive thing for him to feel how nice a family holiday together is. He seems to be at or approaching a major tipping point here, and I want to do what I can to tip it the right way. He is having a hard time and looking for a soft place to land. If he wasn’t wavering, we’d need to do it separately. BUT, since he stated clearly that he IS wavering, my instinct is to be the soft place to land right now given his internal struggle.
Am I wrong here? I am really in need of advice, as I feel the stakes are much higher now.
