It is not surprising she hasn’t got her required paperwork together. MLCer have minds like Swiss cheese, full of holes. They start and stop things, remember then forget, and seem to live in their past; stuck and hopefully working through whatever they need too.
And yes, money is an issue. They usually are terrible at managing money. Imagine a 15 year old trying to run the life of an adult - bills, mortgage, car loan, insurance, electricity, phone, TV, heat, etc... Then add on employment, and the desire to not work because life is passing them by and they want to have fun not be stuck 9-5.
My XW quit two permanent jobs at the hospital, jobs with benefits, pension, security, and so on - things that aren’t important when one is a teenager and going to live forever. She actually used the reason for quitting because she wanted to be able to come and go as she pleased, do other things when she felt like it, so she took up mowing grass, just like a teenager. Even applied at the student job bank and took over most of the town contracts. Hardly anything left for real teens looking for a few bucks.
I wouldn’t get to worried about missing her possible attempts at reconciliation. Like everything else it has starts and stops, touch and go encounters. True reconciliation, the time she is really ready, you won’t miss.
Walk your path, leave her to her’s. Be kind and keep the lines of communication open. She will have a safe place to land and, if it is to be, she will reach back to you.
Did you compliment her on dinner? Pretty sure you would. Being kind and giving small bits of sincere acknowledgement of her actions is a good thing. No pressure, not attempting to change her, just praise for a good thing. And of course don’t over do it.
You are doing well.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
