Hi everyone, been lurking for a few weeks now and I have to say this forum has been the source of great comfort for me. My wife dropped the bomb on me 6 weeks ago. My initial reaction was to detach from her but after a couple of days my emotions got the best of me and rationalizing and pleading occurred for 3 days. With the help of this forum I have managed to detach pretty well, and she seems to be in full blown replay mode. She still exhibits some anger towards me although frequency is much less. She is making much more small talk with me as I get better at detachment, and occasionally I see some signs of depression. So that's my intro and where I am at.
I have a question I hope I can get some feedback and let me just say I am committed to being her lighthouse.
1. My spouse has removed her wedding ring, thoughts and experiences on whether I should remove mine? The last thing I want to do is set her back, but at some point my physical needs will have to be met and having a wedding ring on will not help. I hope this question doesn't sound petty or make me seem shallow but if I don't engage in casual sex from time to time I'm sure I will not be able to be there for her as long. Thank you for listening. Oh let me just say we are still living under the same roof and she considers us temporarily separated free to do as we wish.
