I just finished reading your sitch from start to finish. I am in the process of picking some of the vets and really diving into the full stories so I can hopefully gain a deeper understanding of advice and support that you all so generously give. It has been an honor to read of your journey and I'm so happy for the peace you have found within. Regardless of your M, you have found your worth and your happiness.
One of your most recent anecdotes about your husband and the weed killer pre-BD and post-BD really resonated with me. I'm not sure if you meant it this way, but if you think about M, and think about how both spouses should guard their relationship, your story takes on a whole new meaning.
Before any sign of trouble within your marriage your H was preparing the beautiful garden around your home. He carefully selected all of the best foliage and meticulously planned every placement.
Just when he was about to "weed proof" the surrounding areas, you both decided against it and went about the finishing touches. The garden looked beautiful and you made so many memories in and around it together. BD - WH leaves his amazing Blu and is taken over by the haze of confusion and poor choices. The garden, left unprotected, is eventually infested with weeds and becomes completely unmanageable. The lovely flowers grow disproportionately and the whole area looks a mess.
Fast forward a few years, and your H has returned. You both are now remodeling your garden. Together, you select a beautiful arrangement of plants and fauna. THIS time, you decide to make certain that you are preventing any type of infestation. Your garden and all of it's flowers are protected. You and your husband are effectively guarding your marriage. I truly hope that you are both in the early bloom of building a strong, and lasting romance.
Thank you Blu, for sharing your story and I do hope you continue to give advice and post.
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
