My MC / IC said the same to me... but I think they are trained to improve relationships where both people are still emotionally invested in it to do work.
I personally consider my WW as an Ex at this point, since they lost respect for you and the marriage. You have to show emotional strength to gain respect and attraction. Telling her that you are scared and confused is not strength, and will further push them away.
Thoughts do run through my head that I should be doing more by pursuing - like in the movies. But then I remind myself that when BD happened, I made it clear to her I wanted to work on the MR. And I remember the look in her eyes and walked out.
