H took my car to get brakes Saturday. He called me from the shop and said, My truck is in the shop as well. Can you take me to pick it up when I bring your car back? I said, sure. As soon as I get in the car, he starts in on how junkie my glove compartment and trunk is, WTF???????(I'm thinkin' don't we have more important things to worry about) He used the F word when describing my glove compartment. I said, there is not reason to use profanity when discussing a glove compartment. Either you speak to me in a respectful manner or don't talk to me at all. I said, did u find the insurance card in the gove compartment? He said, yes. I said, that is what is important! He got really quiet for 2 reasons. 1. I use to give him a run or his money w/the arguing. I would go word for word and have to be right. No more, I state the facts and it is over and now he wants to go on and on!
2.I never set boundaries as to how I would allow him to speak with me and let him know if he can't do it , then we can't talk.
Well, then he says, what is it going to take for you to make some changes in your life? He knows that I have made changes and he is furious so now he nit pick about every little thing becasue the big things are no longer issues. I no longer let him get to me so he is trying his hardest to get the old combative me to resurface. I said, I am working on me from the inside out. My changes are working well for me and I feel great. He said, you need a progress report to make sure you are doing ok!!!!!!!!!WTF Does he think I am a child? I said, I am fine working on things with my own system. He said, your system has not worked all of these years. I said, yeah the old system did not work and that is why I am making changes in my life.
I want to point out his flaws so bad but I know that he is in a "it is your fault" mode so he doesn't see his faults. I don't want to play the blame game anymore so I ignore him. He'll realize he's got some changing to do somewhere down the line. He is just justyfying bad behavior right now.
He called me on SAturday night and asked if he could wash a load of clothes. I said, YES. He comes over and I go for a walk. When I get back we have small convo. Then he leaves. He calls me and says, I have your door keys by mistake. I said, why do you have my keys?( I got the locks changesd)He said, because The was a strip of lawn that needed to be mowed and I needed your keys to open the garage and put them in my pocket. That was Saturday night and I still haven't gotten them back. I think he is up to no good........This man is so confused.
One of my male neighbors had given me a little problem before an he made it a point to let me know that if he gives you any problems to let me klnow because that is my job to handle a difficult male neighbor, not yours. Pretty over-protective for a guy that doesn't care anymore!!!!
We haven't said "I love you" in 3 wks. We had never stopped up until now. I miss those words.
