My story 2

[MJ1980]

Could use some advice here

So the other day W started a conversation about child custody. We are fairly in agreement on each other having times with the kids. Trying to sort out the details is a bit tricky. She still seems to want more time going to her. I’m adamant on 50/50. That isn’t the advice part I need though. Midway through the conversation she changed subjects and said she isn’t sure she wants to get divorced anymore. This was a bit surprising to me.

She had said that this is a lot harder and longer then she thought it would be.
She said she was sad about everything
She said she doesn’t understand why she keeps making stupid mistakes.
She said she doesn’t feel in control of anything in her life except for it she is going to cheat.
She apologized for lying and cheating
She said that she thinks I’m happy about getting divorced.
I told I’m not happy I’m just ok with both outcomes and that I have accepted both outcomes
She said she noticed I’m going out a bunch and seem happy.
I am have fun going out with friends. I’m much happier about the state of things.
She asked me if even wanted to stay married.
I told her there are specific things I would need to even have the discussion. But that I was not open to having a open marriage and that I want someone who loves me and wants to be with me. I don’t want to force someone to stay with me.
She was in tears for a good chunk of the conversation.

Things I noticed
It was a very I focused conversation about her
She did apologize for some of her bad behavior
She did not say anything about pausing the D
She didn’t offer any info about weather her other A has ended
She didn’t offer anything to what I said I needed for a good marriage.

I valadated and listened and told her I needed to think about things

So is this more WW control stuff or a legit turning point?

This was Tuesday. Weds when I came home she was on the phone talking to a guy. I don’t know who nor did I ask. She has been actually acting sweet towards me at times. I’m not to sure where her head is at right now.