Doing things with the in-laws is entirely contingent on your own situation. If you hang out with the in-laws and talk on and on about H and the separation, I’d say that is a form of perusing…one that I would shy away from. But if you go out with your in-laws and chat about everything BUT marriage, divorce, separation and H – I don’t see a problem. Think of something to say before hand, such as, “Mmm hmmm but did I tell you about the BBQ I’m organizing with my work friends” or something similar when the subject of H or marriage comes up. By standing firm in your resolve, you’ll be doing yourself a favor by learning to put the focus on yourself and what you’ve been doing. Make sure also that there is NO mention of your woes, nothing but happy!
Oh, and FYI - Even if you tell your in-laws to listen to H rather than validate their crabbing, I’d say it is too much H conversation.
Sounds like a goal in the making…scheduling a BBQ or home party…hint, hint… But remember, that you need to learn to find happiness and company in yourself, too. If the world were empty of people…what would you do with the time on your own hands?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
