This is typical
The MLCer lives a web of lies and usually losses respect from everyone-

Many will find affair partners at work

MY xh had one with his secretary -14 yrs younger than him

Usually the OW is a real nothing
a loser basically...
what other person would hook up with a M guy

They will have to figure it out
\best to continue to let go
be cordial
get legal help
therapy
ect

married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow