Managed to discuss the trip to Argentina, was a few messages from her regarding work early eve, I dropped it in that kids mentioned they were going soon.
Her: not soon, but sister has offered to pay for tickets and show them that part of the world if it's ok with you? Me: that's really good of her, sounds like an amazing experience for them. Her: yes kids are excited. Me: I'm happy for them
So I felt kinda good that I hadn't descended into being obstructive for the sake of it.
She dropped kids off and mentioned a few swaps to days she would like to request over xmas ( now using a scheduling app although still waiting for her to get back to me on parenting plan proposals I sent)
Me: sure, we can look at all that when we agree the plan and have some structure going forward.
Her: a little flustered, I'm not ready to respond to all those things, why does it mention that you want kids to retain access to my sister and your parents, of course they can.
Me: just following the template format, it identifies all those things as things we should agree.
Her: what template?
Me: the example form I sent you last week
Her: I didn't see it , I was sick
Me: that's ok, when you get a chance
And she left
Later on early evening my kids asked to vid chat her, so I let them call her,
She's at home, they chat, my son calls me over to talk to the pet birds back at the family home, my wife makes a real point of the phone camera not showing her while I'm on the call. I see her anyway, She's dressed up to the nines.
I don't say anything and stay Pma.
But man, afterwards my head is spinning, She's entertaining someone in the family home.
I know it's unhealthy and nothing I can control
Just hard, so want there to be some hope, and temptation to pursue is maddening at times. I can only trust in you guys that DBing is my best hope, The time and patience required seems unreal.
