Yeah AS that's exactly what is going through my mind. Its like every little step torwards meeting new people in a dating sense feels like I'm being disloyal to another person, or the idea of another person, and myself, but then logic kicks in and I realize that this person no longer has no loyalty or commitment to me based on their past year of actions.
Yeah it's a tough transition because your heart doesn't listen to your brain Takes your heart a while to adjust to the "new normal".
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Detachment occurred naturally. But when you have to speak with Ex over kids, finances, settlements, etc. That person never just goes away. Feelings still get stirred, but they lessen and become less frequent over time when you limit contact and attachment through time and space.
Yes and you're talking about a much longer term relationship with much deeper ties. You'll get there, but it takes a while!
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I almost feel like I'm doing something wrong, and being a hypocrite even though I am not.
Absolutely, it's normal to feel that way!
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The ink on my divorce is not dry, hell it hasn't even been drafted yet...I really should wait until its final, but I gotta live and be social and enjoy life too while still rolling solo and working on myself ya know?
It's up to you, some feel they need to wait until the D is final and others don't. Only you can make that call. You're getting close to a year since BD, dating in less than a year I feel is jumping in too soon, and even at the year mark feelings are still pretty raw. But the timeline is different for each person.
Takes your heart a while to adjust to the "new normal".