So, having a discussion about holiday schedules on Friday. We have done holidays together for 25 years and my kids know nothing else. W wants to go with her family and I take kids to my family. For obvious reasons, I have some strong feelings about this. I don't want to have to explain anything (or lie) to family and kids. I know many here have dealt with this before, so your input/advice is certainly welcomed.
Any advice on this?
You've got to cross that bridge sooner or later. Your W is ready to cross it now so you need to as well. Like R2C said you don't have to answer the hard questions right now but at the same time you don't want to lie about the situation. "W and I are going through some issues and are working on them, it's not something I wish to discuss right now but I appreciate your support."
