Man after reading your last post it is clear you are all over the place. If you want us to help us you have to be completely honest with us. My hunch is you have read the saying over and over that "you have to let her go to get her back" so you are trying to convince yourself and us you let her go.
Now here is the part you are not going to like. You are probably looking at a minimum of two years before this plays itself out. Either A she realizes life with you wasn't so bad and she misses you or B you move on and find someone else. Zero shortcuts unfortunately no way around it.
So the best advice we give is to protect yourself emotionally and financially and that will also be what is best for your son.
I am really sorry that with everything you are going through you have to deal with this but unfortunately these are the cards you have been dealt.
