Based on what you've written with recent developments, it may be time to speak to your lawyer about setting out interim parenting arrangements in writing between lawyers, pending orders. I would strongly, strongly suggest getting advice before discussing/committing to those xmas time spent requests of H, and maybe get advice to on ongoing parenting discussions/negotiations to be between you both by lawyer to lawyer only. The toxicity in the last changeover is troubling.
Hey again DS.
H should be receiving the consent orders for review in the next week. I'm not waiting for refi approval any more. My solicitor said the orders likely won't be final with the court until Jan/Feb, and that's if he signs straight away. She actually advocated for a non-binding parenting plan to be filed with the orders due to S's age and likelihood that the arrangements will change between now and when he starts school. She advised at that time to file new orders with a legally enforceable custody arrangement.
I don't think he has a lawyer so how would that work?
