H has not retained an attorney. He's not well informed. I, on the other hand, got it all down. Feels good. H said it will depend on the draft agreement whether he retains an attorney. H being not informed is dragging this a bit, but I'm o.k. with it. I've got a full holiday season coming up, and my life i full in general. The process needs to move along at the pace it was meant to.
In an e-mail about the settlement, after going through a few points 1,2,3...# 4 said "I did read your note from last week. I will respond at some point. I don’t have the words right now". I had earlier reported here that I put a few heartfelt words down to him with no expectations. I am mildly interested in what he will say, but not waiting for it.
#5 said "I’m sorry about all this. I know you’re suffering too. I wish I could undo all of this and turn back the clock. I miss my family."
I sent back a response to the points in the e-mail that related to the agreements, then just said " My note to you of last week was sent with no expectations, but I look forward to your thoughts. The past can not be undone, but one doesn't have to be stuck in it forever."
I said this because I am not stuck. I am living. He's stuck because of his own actions or inaction. I hope some day he figures that out. He has the power. He just doesn't know it yet.
