Saturday morning I will go for a bike ride with S. I will call to find out about licensing on Friday. I will find out when next class on being assertive at the community college starts.........
Yes, he will be with me this weekend. I am going to have a talk w/H today about having him every other weekend at his moms. I am just going to calmly say that although I understand that being at parents house is not the ideal sitch, your son needs to spend time w/u every other weekend. You don't have to spend it in the house. Take him out. Enjoy the weather. If you are not in the house, they can not boss you 2 around.
It is amazing to me that since he left he pays attention to things having to do with S that he never paid attention to b4. He never use to buy his clothes. That was always my job. He is buying him a bunch of stuff and taking him to all of his basketball games, but not really spending any quality time w/him. I told him it takes more than that to be a father. I think the guilt is making him spend ridiculous $$$$$$$$$ on S. S has caught on and now just asks his dad for whatever he wants!!!!!!! S tells me that he really doesn't want to spend the weekend w/him though. He said, he would rather be home with me. He won't call his dad unless I say so. H said, can you let him pick up the phone and call me sometime? I sid, I ain't got a lock on the phone! He said, I shouldn't have to do all of the calling. I'm like o.k?
H is so controlling. He was drooping S off last nite and noticed the sensor lights by the garage were on. He said that the kids are playing with the light switch by the garage. The next thing I know he is coming in the house with the bulbs in his hand. He says where do you want these? I said, why did you take them out? He said because I don't want the kids playing with them, Their wasting electricity. I'm like , you don't live here do you? Unbelievable!!!!!!!!!!!
PIB, my H shows baby steps off and on. I think the poor guy is so confused that it is ridiculous. He wants to really convince himself that he gone, never to return! But, once he is in the house he so at home.
When we had the BBQ for the B-Ball team, the headcoach said, you guys have a nice house. H said, thank you. How long you been married? H said, 6 years 9/05/04. I was like if only he knew the real deal. H don't even live here! When my BIL came in the house for BBQ, H was on couch shoes off, sleep. Bil said, this guy is hilarius! I ain't never seen nothing like it!!!!!!! We just laughed. My inlaws really love me. I have been w/H since I was 15 years old. Over half my life!!!
How long were u and H separated? How long b4 R talks and dating started? H and I have no R talks. Only when he threatens divorce. That is usually if I do something he doesn't agree with.
We started dating again, only after I had gone completely dark for 1 month.
I tried to stay away from relationship talks...but I do remember that our first couple of dates were akward...and he kept tearing up...which of course would cause me to tear up!
During one phone call, he told me he loved me.
I remember gasping and saying, "Oh, say it again!"
He did.
I'd have to go review my old threads, don't really remember the details. But I do remember it was 2 steps forward, one step back...and frustratingly slow.
