Quote: It is so funny that now we are figuring this thing out that he wants out! I think he has a great fear that if he comes home things will just go back to being the same.
At risk of continuing this discussion about H...I'm going to tackle this. I see many people on this site whose spouses use the divorce as their defense mechanism. They are afraid that the old way of life will continue, they are not comfortable with change and unsure how to deal with it, they say it a few hundred times hoping to convince themselves that what they are doing is best, etc. The point is, he hasn't done anything about it, so let him say it. If he says, "too little too late", then say, "well it certainly is later than I would have liked, but since this has changed MY life for the better I can say 'better late than never'". Or something. Be postive and focus on YOU rather than the R. (And that is ONLY if he addresses the topic first...)
Okay, the past is the past and H is H...so let's get back to Nitaf, shall we? Any goals for us yet? Boundary plans?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
