You cam detach while living together. It [censored] but its doable. I stayed in my marital home for 8 months after confirmation of my exwws affair. She treated me horribly. I dropped the rope and 100% focused on myself and my kids happiness.
You need to get to the point where you are indifferent to your WW.
I eventually mived out because my EXWW filed for D and it was over in May. I moved out June 1st.
Accept that your MR is over because it is. To truly detach you must truly do whats right for you. Do what makes you happy. Your WWs actions, desires and demands no longer matter.
So what was the purpose of staying in the marital home? Was it because you were hoping she would stay? I'm sorry, I'm just trying to understand why one would stay vs leave.
My W is in an A and in limerence with another woman. They have an addiction to each other. I've been reading up on limerence and listening to Dr. Joe Beam about the subject. I feel like in this situation, it doesn't matter what I do- she will be in limerence with the OW until the relationship dissolves. I don't need to be waiting around for that to happen.
My W is texting and contacting the OW while my S is around. She is being very disrespectful- even more so that she now knows that I know about the A and i'm not doing anything about it. Aside from the confrontation about the A- I resolved to respond to my wife with love and respect. But she's so immersed in this A. Like R2C or AS said, at this point there are no boundaries to put in place- it's either separation or D.
I've spoken to a L today, and there are no legal ramifications if my W and I decided to both leave our rental home. It would just be an agreement between two spouses to live apart from each other. We would agree on a parenting plan (how to share time with our son) and find our own places to live. The more I see how my W is interacting with the OW- the more I see that she needs to live her life without me. She needs to live out her fantasy with the OW. When the feelings of limerence dissipate, I may or may not be here for her if she wants to come back home. In the meantime, I'm going to be working on myself and making sure my son is happy.
