I'd have to speculate that the "mostly the same" has to do with you trying to please him all of the time. Your new goals (still working on them? ) and boundaries should change things even more.

All I can say is that in November my H told me he wanted a divorce. He moved out, and said that he would not ever be coming back. He's here now, isn't he? Last night we shared a wonderful evening, sitting out on the porch watching the storm. I would have NEVER thought that possible last fall.
I credit all of it to the fact that I stopped worrying about him and I just concentrated on me and the kids. He said he never knew I had such strength.
Strength is a turn on. Constantly trying to please is not!Funny how that works, isn't it?