My biological dad was an alcoholic and sexually abusive.
My mother has visited my house 4 times in the last 22 years and lives pretty close.
My mother has called me maybe 3 times in the last year and that was only to return my calls.
My step dad has never called me once in his life.
Neither of my parents have called or come to visit me since BD.
Couple years ago I paid off over $20,000 in my parents credit card debt with barely a thank you.
Sister ran away when she was 16 with her boyfriend and went on a spree of breaking and entering, stolen jewelry, stolen cars, and ended up in jail in California which I helped pay for mom to fly down and bail her out.
My sister borrowed $2,000 from me to pay for one of her child's surgery but I found out she used it for something else (drugs). She has never talked to me since
Moved out of my parents house during my senior year in high school and my parents didn't even notice I had left and still to this day do not realize. Confirmed with my best friends mom that I did this since mom doesn't believe me.
XW cheated on me 2009 and went through living hell with her attacking/blaming me on every level.
Ridiculed for being a stay at home dad for D13's first 5 years of her life by wife, friends, and most moms in the groups I signed up for.
10 years of rebuilding trust and wife BD me again with only I am negative and I didn't build D13 crib when she was a baby
Been accused of violence, mental abuse, not taking care of D13, doing to much for D13 so she favors me, lazy, work to much, weak, controlling, to passionate, not passionate enough, not masculine enough, too masculine
Marriage counseling therapist turned to me in the one and only session after second BD and said I can give you a list of other therapists because apparently he only wanted to work with XW. (He was our MC therapist after the first affair and my IC). When I asked if I could see him again he said "sure" but when I texted him he never returned my text.
Many of my friends no longer invite me over or include me in stuff (XW is not invited either so it isn't like they took sides)
Last week not a single person called or texted me except D13
To summarize how I feel ~
Abandoned by biological dad Abandoned by mom Abandoned by step dad Abandoned by sister Abandoned by wife Abandoned by some friends Abandoned by therapist
It is extremely difficult to look at myself and wonder what the *&^% is wrong with me. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, work hard, got good grades, went to college, take good care of D13, before affairs XW said I was amazing husband and dad, take care of my parents, always their for my friends, never cheated, primary income part of relationship, primary caretaker for another part. I am tired just so very tired.
1st BD December 26, 2008 PA admitted to by XW December 29, 2008
2nd BD May 23, 2019 Daughter confirms EA Divorce Finalized July 18, 2019
