Hi, Meredith. Thanks, for your honesty. I agree with you . I think that there is a misunderstanding though. I didn't say to him that he could come in and I never said he had to be that way. I ignored him, but just took notice. I never once spoke on it!
I do want to be strong, self-sufficient and deserving of the utmost respect. I want to make these changes in my life for me and not for him. I have to remember that H is just the icing on the cake, me getting myself together and becoming a better person is the cake!
The best thing about what I am going through is I don't think I would have ever faced these issues if I hadn't been faced with my H leaving. It is funny how God has a way of making you look @ the man in the mirror to makes some changes! I so look forward to becoming even more of a wonderful person than I already am. I have always struggled with setting boundaries in all areas of my life. I always felt taken advantage of. I was always afraid that if I said no, someone may not like me anymore. I have always been a people pleaser. I want to be a stand up for me kind of person. H would accuse me of being all of the things above, and he too was taking my kindness for a weakness! A lot of what went on in our M stemmed from me being afraid to rock the boat and he knew that so he basically felt like, I can do whatever because she's not going to do anything!
