Meredith, wow. That was brilliant. No more to say than that.
Nitaf, I don't want to seem as if I am being difficult here, but I just don't have it in me to keep rehashing my story. Just click on my name, and you will have the option to see all of my posts. Go back to where you see "My own thread, my own sordid story." That's where everything is. For the record, yes, my H had an A. And, was well on his way to another when he left. I don't like that it happened, but I understand it. And, things got much better when I stopped being hateful about it. No, I won't EVER accept something like that again, but I don't think I will ever be in the position to have to. This DBing really works when you are consistant with it and, as Mer said, do it for the right reasons.
