Quote: do you think that the boundaries that I have set will push H further away from me? I only set the boundaries because I felt like I was being taken advantage of.
Not sure if I'm really qualified to answer this, but I'll give you the way I handle these things. The first part, is about will what I do bring him closer to me, or push him away. I think about this a lot. The second part, to me, is about issues that are 'deal-breakers' for me as a person. I would draw boundary lines ONLY when I felt that the transgression would be something I could not accept. Anything else, I consider to be negotiable. It does require that you set goals, in order to change your behaviour, or to influence him to change his behaviour. I hope this helps, Nitaf. Please always remember that these things are very personal to each of us, and what may be acceptable to me may be deal breakers to you, and vice versa.
Slowly 
