Hi Nitaf - Sounds like there are lots of things happening in your sitch, I would step back a bit and take time to reflect. In my case, the most significant thing I did that gave ME back a sense of control was to take my foot off the pedal, and say to myself that nothing was going to happen to ME until I was good and ready. This was critical for my sanity
These golas look great, Nitaf. Perhaps more room for things YOU can do and less reliance on H's moods? Achieving small goals give the ole PMA such a boost
Quote: 1.when H is feeling closer to me as a friend, he will call me to have small talk convo. (I have not always been easy to talk to because of some lies that he told in the past. I would always accuse him of lying)
What can you do to signal to him that you would enjoy this expereince? How can you let him know that the old Nitaf who used to accuse him of lying will not re-surface?
Quote: As H continues to notice change, he will stop saying too little too late and just compliment me on the changes.
What specific things can YOU do to move things along in this direction?
Goals with emotions at the centre are the most difficult to figure out, and then achieve. Give yourself realistic timeframes, and remember to be kind to yourself
