She's on her phone as always, laughing out loud, constantly receiving text messages no doubt from her lover. She seems so happy to be interacting with OW and not with me. It definitely hurts. Especially when I visualize all those text messages between them that I saw. I love you, I miss you, babe. Cant wait to cuddle with you etc. It hurts bad. She was my babe, and we made a commitment to each other. Now she's "loving" another woman.
She's definitely ramping up the disrespect. Now that it's out in the open she doesn't feel the need to hide anything. The question is how long you can tolerate that, because it's not going to change anytime soon.
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How can they really love each other? Their relationship is built on lies and deceit. The OW is toxic and breaking up a family. How can my W love her?
Google "limerence". Your W is experiencing all the wonderful feelings of limerence right now. Typically it lasts from a few months to a year.
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How can my W tell OW that she loves her when WE had sex just the other day? Is she really a lesbian now? I feel like my W is lost and don't know if she will ever find her way back.
She's probably going through something like MLC and is exploring and experimenting and trying to discover who she is. It's all new and exciting to her for the moment. How long it will last is anyone's guess. You have no control over that, what you do have control over is you. That's where your focus needs to be.
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I have pictures of the text messages between my W and OW and can easily expose.
To who and for what reason? I know you're hurting and miserable but don't make things worse by pursuing some form of revenge because that typically ends up backfiring.
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HOW DO I STOP THE AFFAIR???
As R2C said, you can't. Anything you try to do will just make their bond stronger, they'll feel it's them united against the world.
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I want to talk to her about moving out this house. Rent is quite expensive and I have been thinking about this even before the BD. I can use that as a potential way for us to separate- a clean slate. She can find a place to live and i can find my own. We can talk about splitting time with our son. I will be talking to a few lawyers soon and will ask about that as well.
What should I do guys?
Give yourself some time to process this and find your footing again. Do talk to a L so you're prepared for whatever happens. Don't rush into anything, think about it for a few weeks or month or longer. Consider your options, think about what's best for you and S.
