It was a good weekend away. I went to W’s cousin’s (C) house for a party while W and kids went to a wedding. C’s husband (CH) is one of my best friends and the one person I feel completely comfortable opening up to and seek/value his feedback. I’ve confided in him about my suspicions of an A and he had a hard time believing it. I know my wife confides in C more than anyone. He told me he’s pretty sure C would tell him if my W told her about an A. He said if there is an A, my W has not told his W. When I presented the three red flags, he agreed that they could absolutely be warning signs but offered a couple alternate viewpoints. He said he can confirm my W and C text each other ALL THE TIME and they send each other “I love you’s” and hearts all the time. He has seen them too. He said they were definitely texting at the time I mentioned (during a football game) and I probably walked in while they were discussing me so she switched the screen. W has brought up her night out with a her friend a couple times in regular conversation. She mentioned a bar they went to at dinner the other night. Yesterday we were discussing how rough it was to get up and drive home in the morning (2 hours for each of us). She mentioned waking up really early last weekend on her friends couch and sneaking out before anyone woke up and having a rough drive home that morning too. Is she over sharing to throw me off or just had a really good time with her friend and sharing it? So hard to tell. The last thing CH told me is that my W definitely sees and likes the changes I’ve been making but she thinks it’s just to get the physical R back. He told me to keep doing what I’m doing though because it’s working.
