From what the vets here are saying, it's best to stay in the marital home- especially with kids.
Im going to try my best to DB while we are living together. I've been thinking of some boundaries to put in place.
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS BOUNDARY?
Out of of the goodness of my heart, I felt it was appropriate that I take on more of the financial responsibilities since I make slightly more money than my wife (take home). Kind of like a 60/40 split. I already pay for our health insurance etc.
I'm uncomfortable doing that now, because I feel like i'm being taken advantage of while she's having her A. I want to tell her that I'm no longer paying any of her personal bills (she has a medical bill under her name that I'm paying for), and we're splitting all of our expenses (rent, utility) 50/50 until I know she's no longer having an affair- or until she moves out. I'm also taking away all the little subscriptions- netflix, spotify etc. If she needs those, she can get her own accounts. Why should I help her out while she stepping all over me?
Does this boundary seem vindictive, or fair? I'd rather save or use the money on my S then pay for her A.
What do you think? Can you guys help me out with how I should tell her?
