After BD I told my W that I would try to make things better. Then later I discovered this site and began fooling the guidelines. I was afraid however that she would see this is just me slipping back into my old ways. That is what happened I asked her in convo if anything had gotten any better. She replied “no it just seemed like you cared less”. Im guessing I did not DB correctly. Lately. It has become clear to me that things were getting way worse. And even though I let her go and dropped the rope, she couldn’t see it. It also became clear to me that she still wanted out and she was so miserable that things were deteriorating at home. It didn’t matter if I was home or out GAL. She still felt trapped. Everything is either in my name or joint named. She just felt stuck.
It was very obvious that the only way for her to know that she is free is for me to tell her “you are free”.
It is very obvious that there is not OM in fact. She has been a touch clingy since our giant convo. There was some serious communication breakdown going on. I saw this as the best way to remedy that. Also our S could sense the tension emanating from her. This was not good. However she is a terrific mother and I have zero desire to remove him from her
