MLC divorce is just not the same as a garden variety divorce. So few people IRL understand. I stopped saying much because it was all too complicated to explain and my reality did sound crazy.
Like you say, after all that time together it is hard to understand the reality of who our ex spouses really were. It blurs. Recently, someone asked me about my ex and who he was before MLC and it was all so hard to answer. I was so unsure of my stance of who he was. I often defer to my sisters who are resolute in their answers. “Yes, he loved you.” “Yes, he definitely changed altogether.”
Amazing what you have accomplished. Nice to hear an update.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
