Watched one video of the series on YouTube. I liked it. Made me think about my body language, voice, and how I usually speak "through my head" when Im talking to my W these days. Not very open & centered. Just talking too logically and without any feeling (aside from fear, anger and frustration).
I will work on being that rock. unshakeable. whatever is thrown at me, I'll remain calm. Going to watch more of the vids to get the concepts locked in. Thank R2C!!
Not sure if you read about my recent discoveries of my W A with another woman. I took pictures of her text messages and IG messages sent to her AP.
WELL
Even though i changed my password on my iPhone, she was able to figure it out and deleted all of the pictures of the messages. I should came up with a better password lol Good thing I emailed them to myself and got backups!
Moral of the story, cover your tracks, and cover your A**
Not sure what phone you have, but is her biometric (fingerprint / face recognition) on there as a form of authentication.
Sad how relationships end up... two people playing games covering up their tracks... when it's supposed to be two people being absolutely committed and honest with each other.
It is sad man. Very very sad. We used to be open books before. Never had an issue with that at all.
My son told me that my W asked for my laptop PW the other day. Good thing I changed it. However I still do wipe my history or go incognito and don't store too many documents locally
Really diggin' the The Art of Fearless Seduction series!
Im going to start implementing the concepts in my interactions with everybody. I like the idea of being grounded and open. Not so "in your head" rather dropping down lower and opening up your heart, and even lower to create tension.
As far as interactions moving forward with my wife, i think if I used these concepts moving forward, I might get favorable results. Not saying she's going to jump in my arms again, but maybe she would feel more comfortable and match my calm energy and demeanor- resulting in better communication.
Listen, Get out of the drama. Change the door knob on the master bedroom with a keyed one. You need time and space away from wife. Do not interact with her. Respectfully move her stuff back out of the room and keep it locked.
This is how you gain respect.
You need time and space away from wife to make some important decisions.
You need time and space away from wife to make some important decisions.
You need time and space away from wife to make some important decisions.
You need time and space away from wife to make some important decisions.
Do not move out. This weekend is key to saving your marriage. Do not move out. We all made that mistake and regret it. Go look and wolfmans last few posts.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Admittedly, I feel like i'm playing games when I did that. I will listen to everyones advice, but do you understand why im feeling like this? She's immediately going to say that i'm acting like a kid. I respect everyone here, so I will do it, but honestly im a bit nervous to move her stuff out again
I understand that. I am amazed that she moved back in.
Look, you are one of the very few that actual followed this advise. Most of the guys move out and regret it. Did you go read wolfmans last few posts?? The times that the guys don't, their cheating wife's do move out on their own.
I have been divorced 10 years. Lots of time to watch this process play out over and over.
I assume you want your family intact. You are the only one that can save it. If that is what you want. Even then, it will take her wanting to also.
Fight the affair. Stand for your family. Do not be disrespected.
You can't just kick her out of the house. But you can claim your bedroom as yours. She cheated, she sleeps elsewhere.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
