I have made the decision to not stay in the same house as my W
If possible, I wouldn't leave until you see an attorney, especially if you're abandoning kids without an agreed upon parenting schedule. This could have long-term child custody and psychological consequences.
Originally Posted by kbuenob
I know I’ll be able to afford an apartment for him and I, but not confident that she can find a place and afford it on her own.
The courts will help make this work out for both of you. In the US she can request alimony and child support so she gets a similar amount as you. Your income and savings are a result of teamwork. Attorneys and online calculators can tell you guideline amounts in case you want to plan what you'll end up with.
Originally Posted by kbuenob
Since we will probably be splitting time with our S, I don’t know what to do. I do know that I DO NOT want my son staying with my W and the OW should they be shacking up together. Thoughts?
Once you separate, assuming she's not committing any crimes, what she does is no longer any of your business. You parent on your time as you see fit, and she parents on her time as she sees fit. This assumes the OW is not a sex offender or felon, in which case you make have a leg to stand on.
