Have you ever shown this diagram to your kids, and if so, how did you introduce it?
Havn't shown it to them. Mostly point out things when I "see" and remember.
Me:"Why do think StepMom is frustrated?" Kids:"Because I didn't do my chores?" Me:"and why else?" Kids:"Because I said I would" Me:"And why else?" Kids:"Because we have talked about this many times and I don't change my behavior"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712