This is also a 180 for me beacuse I have always been a push over. Always afraid to say no because of insecurities from childhood and such. Abandonement issues but that is another whole story!
DO I have to be apush over? I felt the need to be assertive and I have never been before. I want respect. I don't want to be a doormat and I don't want him feeling sorry for me. THose things are not attractive!!!!!!!!
I want love and affection, not pity! MEn out there do you respect a woman you can walk out on and come ML, eat ect. without committment and not have to be accountable for your time but you want to control her time? I told him to get S every other weekend because he won't take the initiative to keep him overnite. He just takes him back and forth to sporting events???????? What does he think? Whas nothing to do on weekends but entertain S? Give me a break! COntrol freak and al manipulator.
He had me thinking this was all my fault and he could never trust me again because he suspects EA/Pa. WHen in fact this is all about him and not me. He wanted the chance to see OW in my opinion and that is why he chose to left and used that to justify his behavior!!!!!
I am so glad that i Can accept responsilbility for my stuff. I even take responsibilty for his A's to a certain extent. He says everything including his A is my fault completely!!!!!!! I said I let you balme it all on me long enuff. I take responsibility for my stuuf anad now you have to own your own stuff so stop fliiping the script. I know, not good DBing but sick and tired of being balmed for everything!
I was not always the nicest personm in the world, could be bitch at times, not giving words of affirmation BUT, I am no longer that person. H says I see changes but it is too late. WTF THat means someones else is feeling those needs so I don't need you in short????????????
I think that H lost respect for me beacuse i was always indecisive and afraid to stand up for myself!!!!!!!! No more of that. I will DB but I will demand respect as well!!!!!!
