What Steve and R2C said. A common complaint of WAS's is that they feel "caged in" or trapped. The idea is for you to open the cage door. You don't push them out, you don't pull them in, you just open the door and let them choose. How do you do that? If she comes to you and says she wants a D you say "this is not what I want but I understand that you feel you need this and I will not stand in your way, I will support your decision whatever it is." That's one way of opening the door. She's free to stay, she's free to go. You're not doing anything to influence her choice, you're just getting out of the way and letting her choose. If she no longer sees the cage/ home/ marriage as a prison then she won't feel pressured into immediate action.
