I am not an expert, but the conversation last night sounds like a good foundation for a future relationship, as long as you both were being open an honest.

Let her go, keep forgiving her. Love her unconditionally.

Most important, forgive yourself.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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